I feel like each time I write a post these days, it’s all about how grateful I am for the friends and family in my life who continue to rally during this difficult time. Even when we are all upset, confused, or nursing hurt feelings, we continue to come around again. And again.
Our fishing crew, my sisters, my parents, my National Fisherman family, my friends online and in real life continue to get on board during this difficult ride.
They don’t have to. Who wants to be involved in a messy situation? Who doesn’t have their own problems, their own struggles, their own stuff to deal with?
There is never a right answer, a right response, a right way to react or act in a bad situation. But still, these people stay put. And I remain grateful for the community who surrounds me and who stick around whether I deserve it or not, no matter what is going on. That’s unconditional love.
Eighteen years ago this month, my brother-in-law was lost at sea during the Alaska Snow crab season. It is a tragedy that remains as fresh today as it did then. You don’t get over something like that. What I remember, in addition to the pain and loss and grief, is all of the people who rallied around my family. Our crew. Lifelong friends. New friends. Family.
They cooked us meals, braided the hair of my sisters and me, and made us smile. I remember falling asleep next to my sister each night in my old bedroom, listening to her sob for her husband.
My husband has not died (thank God) but in my own time of sorrow, I have been surrounded by the same love, outreach, and understanding as occurred back then. I feel the same gratitude and appreciation for these people and their support as I did back then. The community is different, the situation is different, but I still feel the love and I am still in awe.
Surround yourself with good people, friends.