I Won’t Live in My Car, and You Can’t Make Me.

Before I had children, I maintained that if you ever caught me in ugly sweats and driving a mini van, you could just shoot me.

I know, seriously. It’s extreme.

Now that I have three children, you may well catch me in sweats, but they’ll be cool sweats, if there is such a thing. But I did bypass the mini van for the Ford Flex, which has a ton of horsepower–the better to pass slow pokes on the freeway and be the first off the line when the light turns green.

One thing I won’t do is spend my life in my car.

I might wear sweats and drive a cross-over SUV, but I refuse to watch my life, and that of my children, sneak by from the view in my vehicle. I am firm in the belief that it does my children no good to spend all day in the car. Load up. Drop off. Pick up. Drive. Drop off. Kill an hour. Return. Pick up. Load up. Drive home. Repeat.

I just won’t do it.

This year, I tried organizing our schedule so that our drop-offs and pick-ups were around the same time and in the same part of town. Knowing baby Valerie would need her naps uninterrupted, and I couldn’t take another year of staggered schedules in different parts of town, I tried to coordinate accordingly.

So far, my plan has worked.

I got a taste of how well it is working just today. George is back to work on the boat, replacing the main engine with a new one (these engines take a ton of time, stress, and money, to the tune of about $70K). He goes to the boat each day and comes home in varying moods, depending on how the install has gone.

Replacing the main engine is a big deal and something George has decided must be done now, before the Dungeness crab gear work or season begins. For us at home, it means that he’s gone back to work two months earlier than he would have otherwise.

I’m just glad that I planned ahead so that the kids’ schedules would leave us all time and energy. We are only just beginning the school and fishing year, but so far, so good.


  1. I hope you can continue that schedule. I swore the same thing about sweats and a mini van. However, I opted for a Suburban. When the boys were little, I was able to better coordinate their schedules. Now I just hope for a day or two where we are not insane crazy running around. However, the good part is as they get older, you can drop and run!

    • Amy, lol! “Drop and run.”

      Last year, I could not have created a worse schedule for the children and me if I had sat down and tried my hardest. Seriously. I still get stressed out each time I think about it!

      I really had to keep in mind this year that when George is not around it is me doing all of the running around and I had to do better this year with a schedule that would work. I want the kids to have fun and enjoy their activities but we also need some downtime and home time.

      One of my Facebook friends told me good luck and just wait until they are in high school! Ha!

  2. Hi – I have added you to my blog subscriptions because I read one of your fabulous short stories that talked about your time at WWU and dating. I also went to WWU and just had to look you up, I think we attended about the same time. While I know nothing about commercial fishing, I love reading your blog and hope Vincent is doing better.

    • Beth, wow! That’s amazing! How did you happen to come across that anthology? What year did you graduate from WWU? Thanks so much for subscribing and for taking the time to look me up. I also appreciate your well-wishes for Vincent. He just returned to school yesterday; we’re easing him back in slowly with half-days. His adjustment is going well! It was a rough two weeks but I think he is gaining confidence and doing a lot better! His little class made him a Get Well Soon card and seemed genuinely happy to see him return, so that was precious and made him (and me) feel good.

  3. I’m glad he’s healing well!

    I was at WWU from 1995 to 1998. I picked up the anthology because it looked interested, what a pleasant surprise to see a WWU story!

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