Someone pointed out to me lately that you either love me…or you hate me. Black or white. Hot or cold. For some reason, where I happen to be concerned, there is no middle ground.
I can see that. I feel the same way towards the people in my life. I didn’t ask for that crazy filter, but there it is. You’re in or you’re out.
I’ve recently had cause to think about that “situation”, along with the fact that I have a birthday coming up.
I am not making a big deal about my birthday, because too much yuck has happened since the last one, and I don’t want to publicize how old I actually am.
When I think about the last year, though, I have a few thoughts.
First of all, treat yourself and everyone else with dignity. Whether they were wrong or you were wrong. Everyone is doing the best they can, and they are doing what they know based on what they’ve learned from their own (equally dysfunctional) families.
Our children are everything. They didn’t ask to be born. They were conceived and birthed and brought into the world and deserve every shot of happiness, health, and love the world has to offer. And the “world” doesn’t have too much to offer, so it’s up to the parents and the community of family and friends to help make it happen.
If people you thought were your friends desert you, no matter. They were good friends for a time, and now that time is over. Don’t dwell upon what happened or ask why. It isn’t worth it. There are always more friends around the bend.
The world is filled with awesome, smart, funny people. Open yourself up to them and allow yourself to trust and laugh and talk.
If something truly tragic happens, don’t lose hope. My sister lost her husband in a fishing accident 18 years ago. She got remarried three years ago.
I have spent much of the past year feeling sad and confused, but I also feel so hopeful, happy, and excited. I am honestly excited for my birthday coming up and for the year ahead. I love everyone who came before and I love those yet to come.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again; surround yourself with good people. And if nobody’s around, try and be your own good person.